Have you ever encountered someone who was feeling down and wanted to help, so you tried to cheer them up with optimism or humor, or anything that didn’t align with their current emotional state?
Did it work? Or did they become upset or want to distance themselves from you?
I used to be that person. Whenever my daughter would share her awful day with me, I would immediately search for a solution or say something positive. It would anger her. In reality, I was trying to dismiss her true feelings and shift her focus from her heart to her head. It may have worked occasionally, but most of the time, it didn’t.
Because I struggle with this and see it happen so often, here’s a little tip. When someone is hurt, angry, sad, or lonely, start by acknowledging their emotions and validating their feelings. Show empathy and take a few deep breaths together to assist them in processing their emotions with your support. Once they feel heard and understood, then you can introduce positivity or discuss potential solutions.
It took me many years to learn this lesson, and I still make the mistake of jumping into “fix it” mode right away.
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Sending you virtual hugs…
Warm regards,
Linda❤️
